2020 Ramblings

Happy holidays, everyone! I hope you all are staying warm and most importantly, healthy. Can you believe we’re just a few short weeks away from Christmas? Is it just me or does it feel like 2020 flew by? I’m not mad about it, though. Bring on 2021. We’re all so ready for it.

The holidays are certainly looking different this year. We typically either travel up to Rhode Island and Massachusetts to see family or they come down here, but for obvious reasons our family get togethers are postponed for now. Better to be safe than sorry, right? Maybe that means we can have a Thanksgiving/Christmas 2.0 Celebration in July when the weather is nice and the vaccine is ready. That sounds ideal to me.

My friends and I have a similar mindset regarding our birthdays this year as well. We all turned 26 within the past few months, but have decided that 2020 doesn’t count. So really, we’re 25 pt. 2! Speaking of, having my old high school buddies around has been a silver lining of the pandemic. Some of them have moved back home for a while during COVID and it’s been nice all having the chance to slow down and reconnect — even if from six feet apart sometimes.

2020 has been a crazy, different, and scary year for everyone. For me, it’s felt very confusing and frustrating and I know I’m not alone in this. I felt as though my life was pretty much ‘on hold’ for half of 2017, and most of 2018 and 2019 as well as I rehabbed and recovered from multiple surgeries. Then, right when I was starting to feel strong and somewhat like myself again a pandemic hit … forcing me (and everyone else) to hit the pause button yet again. For the disability community and higher-risk individuals, it’s been an especially isolating year. I’m constantly asking myself: Am I being too cautious? Not cautious enough? Ugh.

Hopefully, things will start to turn around in the new year and the constant uncertainty and anxiety will go away. Obviously, things won’t miraculously go back to ‘normal’ when the ball drops to ring in 2021. There will still be dark months ahead and hard work to be done. We will have a vaccine soon, though, and a new leader soon as well. A leader that believes in science and doctors and cares about people of all races, sexualities, abilities (!!!), etc. There are things to look forward to on the horizon. I have to stop and remind myself of this often.

Wishing you all a healthy, happy holiday season and a great start to 2021! Thank you for reading.


Walk for Love 5k Fundraiser

Hi family and friends! If you’re looking for a way to give back to the community then look no further! Dr. Scott Kozin, my wonderful OT’s, and all of the folks at Shriners have been an amazing blessing to me and to children from all over the world. It is truly a special place and they never turn a patient away, regardless of their ability to pay.

Over the past year and a half, I have undergone three surgeries at Shriners. During my many months of rehab there, I met children with disabilities and their families who traveled to Shriners for specialized care from Croatia, Honduras, Belize, Newfoundland, and all over the country. I was very lucky to live nearby and that they opened their doors to me even though I was an overage patient.

Please consider a small donation as I roll to support them in their annual Walk for Love 5k fundraiser on Saturday, October 3, at the Philadelphia Zoo. To make a donation, please click HERE or search ‘Salisbury Squad’ to sponsor my team. If you are in town, feel free to register with our team and join us! Don’t forget a mask!

Thank you, everyone, for your continued support and love. Your donations mean a lot to me!

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Three years of SCI

7/10/17 —  Today marks three years since my life was changed forever. Three years since I felt the ground beneath my feet, signed a paper with my dominant hand, or hopped out of bed without thinking twice. It has felt like an entire lifetime, yet it has gone by in the blink of an eye. I have so many mixed emotions.


Three years ago today I suffered a major stroke in my spinal cord. What started as a completely normal day — going to work, coming home and watching The Bachelor with my roommates — became my last ‘normal’ day. I’m not one to vent on social media or on my blog very often but I’m not going to lie, every day is still a challenge. Not a day goes by where I don’t miss my body and my life before my spinal cord injury. I try my hardest to be positive and stay strong, but it’s not always easy.


It’s been a crazy few years, to say the least. I’ve spent three-plus months in the hospital, had three major surgeries, multiple other procedures, and endured months of post-surgery restrictions and recovery. I’ve also spent countless hours in physical therapy and occupational therapy working on my body to keep it strong and regain as much independence as I can.

I often get frustrated with the function I’ve recovered. If you asked me three years ago where I’d be today I’d probably say walking and living my normal life. But that was before I truly understood everything about spinal cord injuries. So sometimes it helps when I go back and look at pictures and videos of my early SCI days and remind myself that I actually have made progress! I’m finding little bits of new independence all the time and I’m excited about continuing to meet my goals.  I’m even hoping to learn how to drive again in the near future. The pandemic has that on hold right now, but once there’s a vaccine, I’m hitting the road! I was never a great driver even before my injury, so watch out.

I read a statistic recently that said ‘people with disabilities are the nation’s largest minority group and the only one that any person can join at any time.’ It really struck me. Life can change for anyone without a warning in an instant, just like mine did. So, run all the miles you can, hug your friends and family every day, travel whenever possible, and never take things for granted. Try not to stress too much about classes, work, friend drama, or looking perfect all the time like I did. All of that is so insignificant.


Even though I still have bad days, I’m thankful to be alive whether it’s walking or rolling. I’m blessed to be surrounded by wonderful, supportive friends and family. Thank you to everyone who has stuck by my side (and peeked in on this blog) these last few years. You’ve helped me discover who is truly in my corner and what’s important in life.

So, here’s to rolling through life for three years and many more to come. Thanks for being a part of my journey.

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Another day in ‘the Q’

I can’t believe it’s almost officially Spring and we’re still in ‘the Q,’ as people are calling this strange time in history. Governor Wolf recently extended the stay-at-home order until June 4. That being said, I hope everyone is staying healthy and somewhat sane.

There’s officially another Temple grad in our home! Caroline graduated with a degree in psychology and a minor in neuroscience last Thursday. Of course, her commencement ceremony couldn’t be held in-person with all the craziness of the pandemic right now. We made the best of it, though, and had a little at-home celebration instead. Her psychology professors held a nice virtual ceremony. We Zoomed with family and drank sangria while we listened to speeches and waited for her name to flash across the screen. The dogs loved being invited to graduation this year! They’re not minding this whole stay-at-home thing one bit.

It’s crazy to think that I graduated three years ago now! Time really does fly. Here’s a picture of Caroline and Willow having a graduation photoshoot and a throwback picture of my friends and me on the TU big chairs.

Last week was Mom’s birthday and Mother’s Day as well! It’s safe to say we had a busy week celebrating around the house. Birthdays and holidays seem a little anti-climactic in quarantine, but that just means we can redo them once it’s safe enough to venture out into public again. Two days out of the year isn’t enough time to show our love and appreciation for you, Mom. Thank you for supporting me every day and helping me put my life back together, piece by piece. You’re the best.

There’s certainly been a lot more downtime during quarantine. In some ways, it’s been nice, but I know I’m not the only one starting to go a little stir crazy. Reading has been one of the things getting me through the many weekends cooped up at home instead of seeing friends. I’ve never been big on fiction, but it’s kind of nice to sometimes escape reality for a little while. I’m about to finish Quarantine Book #7. Some of the books I’ve read and would recommend are Little Fires Everywhere, Nothing to See Here, Verity, and In Five Years. Give ’em a try!

Another new development: I applied to grad school! Ahhhh. Temple’s Master of Science in Communication Management program begins in the fall. Fingers crossed I get in! I’ll keep you posted.


Quarantine vibes

Happy Quarantine, everyone! I hope you all are staying safe, healthy, and sane during this crazy/scary/boring time.

For me, quarantine ‘officially’ began a little over two weeks ago. With the rapidly spreading virus, we decided it would be best to take a break from PT and OT until things calm down. Due to my SCI, I’m considered a higher risk. I don’t necessarily have a higher chance of getting sick, but if I did it might be harder for me to recover.  My injury affected my core and chest muscles, so my little baby coughs are pretty weak. I haven’t been sick since my SCI (knock on wood) and I definitely don’t want to start with the coronavirus!

On a lighter note, the dogs are loving the quarantine. With everyone home, they’re definitely getting more treats, cuddles, and walks than they would on a normal day. They are totally unaware of the scary things going on in the world right now. It must be nice to be a dog. I was looking through old photos the other day and came across a picture of Hazel, our 12-year-old yellow lab, when she was just a puppy.  So cute!

I look funny….but at least Hazel’s cute

Since this time of year is typically the start of the baseball season, I expected the house to be quiet with just my mom and me, but it’s nice to have everyone around. Caroline has been putting her ‘therapy aid skills’ to good use helping me do some PT at home. She’s also been baking a lot — rolls, gluten-free cornbread, cake, cookies, homemade dumplings– trying to make us all gain the coronavirus 15.

Of course, quarantine is the perfect time to chill and binge-watch Netflix. Some recent shows we’ve been loving are season three of Ozark (Netflix) and Little Fires Everywhere (Hulu). We’ve also been doing some painting to pass the time. I was never very artistic before my SCI (and I’m still not now) but here are some of my recent left-handed doodles.  Mom also single-handedly completed a 1,000-piece puzzle, which you can see in the background of this photo. Way to go, Mom!


Hopefully, within the next few weeks or months, the coronavirus will subside and life will go back to normal. I’m definitely used to staying home and laying low more now than I was before my injury, so this whole social distancing thing isn’t super new to me. I’m still itching to go out and see friends, but I guess Zoom and FaceTime will do for now.

It’s important to stay informed about everything going on, but remember it’s OK to take a break from the news and social media as well. Stay safe, healthy and…home! We will get through this together.


Chef Mary

Hello there! Welcome to Mary’s Cafe. Our specialties include macaroni and cheese, cauliflower crust pizza, and waffles with fried eggs. Take a seat and enjoy!

Before my injury, I loved to cook. I was always looking up new gluten-free recipes on Pinterest and trying them out. Since my SCI, I haven’t done much in the way of cooking. I typically find the recipes then direct Mom how to cook them.  I thought cooking would be pretty much impossible with only one hand. Turns out I was wrong!

When I was at Shriners rehabbing after my tendon transfer, my OTs, Justine and Sarah, had me in the kitchen chopping veggies and baking cookies to strengthen my arm back up. My kitchen creations there inspired me to try cooking at home, too. They gave me a rocker knife and helped me find a single-handed cutting board, pictured below. I highly recommend both of these products for amputees or anyone with paralysis in one arm/hand.  


For the past several weeks, I’ve been participating in a coaching study with two OT Doctoral students at Jefferson, Bernadette and Taylor. The gist of the study is that I set a handful of feasible goals and the students check in with me every week to see my progress. So far, it’s been a great experience!

One of my goals has been to continue gaining independence in the kitchen and since our kitchen is not very wheelchair-friendly right now — hence the dent in the fridge — we made my own little kitchen! I feel like I’m back in my Temple dorm room circa 2013 with a mini-fridge and toaster oven right in my bedroom. My menu is not very extensive yet, but I’ve independently cooked myself breakfast and lunch several times so far. Trader Joe’s gluten-free macaroni and cheese is my current go-to. Yum. 

It feels good to be taking little steps toward more independence like making some of my own meals. My next step is to add a Keurig to my makeshift kitchen so I can make coffee or tea whenever a craving hits. I always need that 2 pm caffeine boost. If you ever need one, stop by my cafe and I’ll whip you up something nice.

As always, thanks for reading. Talk soon.


Sweet Dreams

In my dreams, I walk. Literally and figuratively.

A couple of weeks ago, I had a dream so vivid and funny that I just have to share. I was in the King of Prussia Mall (it was unclear who I was with) and I was able to walk, but only if I was pushing a Swiffer mop. Some people use walkers. Some people use canes. But I, apparently, use a Swiffer. Totally a normal thing to be walking around a mall with, right?

Now, it’s not uncommon for me to walk in my dreams. Actually, it’s uncommon for me to be in a wheelchair in them. Usually, I’m able to walk, not perfectly, but I am able to walk, sometimes with a little help. The Swiffer (Mom’s favorite cleaning tool) is a new twist though.

I’m not sure what my sleeping mind was trying to tell me … maybe I miss cleaning? Nah, can’t be that. Anyway, I thought you might get a kick out of my silly dream. I know I did.

In other news, I am finally back doing some physical therapy at Magee! I can’t believe it’s been over a year since I did any formal physical therapy there. I had to be really careful with my arms during my surgery recoveries, so I couldn’t do any PT, just OT with my friends at Shriners. I had an evaluation at Magee last week and will be going twice a week for the next couple of months. I’m looking forward to being more active, getting stronger again, and seeing some of my old Magee friends.

That’s all for now! I hope 2020 is treating everyone well so far.

Sweet dreams!

Thanks for the help, Swiffer.


A Letter to 2019

Dear 2019,

I can’t say I’m sad to see you go. You’ve been a long, challenging year — both emotionally and physically — to say the least.

You brought the loss of loved ones. I will never forget them and will cherish them in my heart forever.

You also brought sacrifice. I had three elective surgeries within about seven months. Although I knew it wouldn’t be easy, I definitely underestimated how long and frustrating my recoveries would be. Weeks in casts and splints, months of immobilizations and restrictions, and the temporary loss of independence took a lot out of me and tested my patience.

Despite the difficulty you brought, there have been happy times, too — some new physical gains, new friendships, a snazzy tattoo, volunteering, some work from home, a beach vacation, lots of family time and puppy snuggles, of course. Thank you to my family (shout out to mom!) for taking such good care of me all year long, even when I’m grumpy. And, of course, thank you to all my great doctors, PTs, and OTs.

All in all, 2019, you provided some ups and downs, but I made it through stronger than I was before. And maybe that’s all that really matters, right?

So, adios, 2019!

And here’s to you, 2020. I’m ready for ya.

– Mary


My Tendon Transfer Experience

Happy fall, everyone!

I can’t believe summer is over and the holidays are right around the corner. It’s been a while since I’ve given an update on my progress. To be honest, it’s been a long, challenging two months but good things are happening. Here’s a little glimpse into what I’ve been up to:

On August 22, I had surgery on my left arm. Before my SCI, it was my nondominant arm, but since then I’ve had to rely on it for everything because my right arm is really weak. I was really torn about having the surgery because I knew it meant giving up my arm for a couple of months. But after talking to several people who had it done and doing a lot of research, I decided to go for it. Sometimes you have to take one step backward to take two steps forward, right?

My left arm worked pretty well and I was independent in a lot of things before the surgery, but my left triceps was absolutely nonexistent. If I was lying in bed and reached up, my arm would fall and smack me in the face. Let me tell you, it’s not fun (and that’s just one example). Dr. K and Justine and Sarah, my awesome OTs at Shriners, decided I would be a good candidate for biceps- to- triceps tendon transfer surgery.

Basically, you have three different muscles in your arm that work together to flex your arm up towards your face — the brachialis, brachioradialis, and the biceps. Turns out you don’t need all three muscles to still be able to feed yourself, brush your teeth, and do everything else that requires elbow flexion. It’s pretty genius that our bodies come with all these spare parts — the gracilis, biceps, appendix, etc. During the surgery, the biceps brachii are snipped and wrapped around the elbow to act as triceps.


After surgery, my arm was in a straight cast for a week. My friend Erin drew a cute picture of a wiener dog on it. Very fashionable. Since then, it’s been in a brace so it can’t bend past the allowed range and I’ve been going to Shriners for OT almost every day. The biceps are used for flexion, so I am in the process of retraining my brain to use them for extension. It’s actually really hard! It takes a lot of patience and practice during OT, but I’m starting to get a hang of it.


Right now, I’m allowed to bend my arm to 90 degrees and I’ll get the brace off soon. I’m super excited about that. I will finally start to work on strengthening it back up and using it to do things independently again. Thank God for that because Dad is a terrible teeth brusher and Mom needs to work on her makeup skills.

Another exciting development is that the gracilis in my right arm is finally coming alive. It’s not strong enough to make much movement yet, but the whole muscle contracts now! It’s a start. The doctors from Shriners and Penn seem very excited and optimistic that it will continue to strengthen over the next 18 months.

This whole process has been a test of my patience and at times has been a little scary. But with every new movement I know I’m headed in the right direction.

Until next time! Thank you for reading.


Thank you!

Thank you so much to everyone who supported my family’s team for Shriners Hospital’s Walk for Love fundraiser! With your generosity, we were able to surpass our goal and raise nearly $4,000 — incredible. I know your contributions will go a long way to help kids with all sorts of disabilities reach their potential.

The Walk on Saturday was a really great time! It was a beautiful, brisk fall morning. Some of my family from Rhode Island, friends from Temple, and friends from Magee came out to support me and walk with us. Even Willow came! She definitely won the award for the tiniest dog there — and cutest (in my opinion). It really meant a lot to me to have everyone there.

Thank you again!

Salisbury Squad! Of course, my eyes were closed in every picture.